If you're playful, Women will think you're Cool
If there is one thing that most guys need to do - to have more success in dating, it's to be more playful. More often than not, guys who are not good with women are guys who are "too serious" when they're around women.
If you're playful, women will think you're cool; if you're too serious, women are going to think you are a "tool."
It doesn't matter if it's part of your personality to be "serious." There are times and situations in life when you have to be very serious, and there are also times and situations when you have to be very playful.
I'll give you an example. If you were working as an air traffic controller, I would tell you to be very serious with your job and be very cautious at work.
But let's say you're just out on a first date with a woman after work. Then I would tell you to let go and be very playful with her!
Here's the bottom line:
If you're too serious with flirting, then you're not flirting at all. Even if you follow every step I've told you to do and say every line I've taught you to say, you're not actually flirting. To become a Smart Flirter, you must let go of your worries and become more playful!
If you're one of those guys who have trouble being playful around women, then today I am going show you a few ways to become more playful:
1) Poke her.
2) Tackle her.
3) Lift her up.
4) Challenge her to arm wrestling.
5) Play thumb war with her.
6) Give her a piggy back ride...and run as fast as you can.
7) Throw something tiny at her. Then look away and whistle as she looks at you.
8) Steal something from her and make her wrestle you to get it back.
9) Twirl her around.
10) Pinch her nose and shake it like she's a plush toy.
Use these sample techniques as a blueprint for coming up with your own techniques. Remember that the key is to be playful and focus on having fun instead of "getting results!"
Flirting 101
A common mistake a neophytes do all the time is that they try to combine approaching women with flirting and teasing before they are ready to do so.
When you're playing basketball, you learn to dribble and you learn to shoot. Both are important skills to have and do work together eventually, but at the beginning, they need to be practiced separately until you are ready to do them simultaneously.
Dating is no different. If you worry about approaching women when you should be practicing your flirting, it's going to kill your success. And if you worry about how you should be flirting with a woman before you approach her, it's going to lower your confidence and make yourself stumble.
That's why you should practice approaching women and flirting with them separately until they both become second nature to you.
Start by flirt with every woman you come across casually. Just let go of your expectations and be playful. Forget about the results and just do it. Flirt with all the females within your social circle. (If you don't have one, it's time to get one!)
Once you can do that, then start approaching strangers (not just women, but men as well) and small-talk them. Focus on meeting people and developing your natural curiosity towards things and people in general.
GoodLuck!
