How to Learn the Art of Seduction
Steps
- Seduce her mind first. You must get in her head and have her thinking about you. You must make her feel comfortable with you.
- Listen and talk to her. Women love to talk. They feel closer to you if you listen and remember what she talked about. In a way, words are a form of intercourse for a woman because it's the only thing they have with which to establish trust with you. A woman will tell you exactly how and when she wants to be seduced if you just shut up and listen to her -- find out her likes and dislikes, her needs and desires, whatever it takes. Laugh with her and agree with her when you can.
- Take things slowly. Show her that you're patient; your ability to resist her will make her wonder if you're really interested, and will motivate her to show you that she's worth being interested in.
- Kiss with your eyes first. Women need to feel a connection with you. You begin this connection through your words and then your eyes. If you can keep her eyes on yours, and hypnotize her with your words, you are halfway there.
- Increase the physical intimacy. You have to be careful with this one. Don't be eager or aggressive. Begin touching a woman with simple hugs, pats on the back, etc. Then gradually increase it by bringing her in closer...kiss with your eyes. Then move on to simple kisses (pecks). Again, take it slow.
- Talk about sex or sexy things. At some point, begin to talk about sex...not between the two of you, but general experiences you've had. Once you inject the topic of sex, it will be on their mind when they think about you. With women, it's all about familiarity and safety. Talking about the act makes them more comfortable with the act.
- Tell a woman you want her. Pick the right time, but be clear that you want her -- not in a cheesy way ("I want you, baby,") but in a tender way. She needs to know you want a time and place for the act. Gauge her reaction. If she is ready, then plan on setting up the situation for it to happen.
- When it's the right time, always ask for permission ("Are you okay, darling?") and be ready to back off at any time if she is not ready.
- Respect a woman at all times. She is not a piece of meat but a human being with feelings. If you are out to "get some," then you are not seducing a woman; you are merely an animal in heat.
- Find a good form of interaction, one that works best for you. If you need time to think about what you're going to say, maybe email or IM will work best for you, at least to start.
- Always listen.
- Talk to her frequently. The best approach is email. It gives you direct access to her head because you can be as intimate as you want and she can mull your words while you are not around.
- Kiss with your eyes -- establish that eye to eye contact and you will begin the intimacy process.
- This method works with men too except they don't like to talk as much.
- Don't be creepy -- staring at the wrong times, seeming overly eager, or airing out your relationship past on the first date are all examples of the wrong way to seduce a woman. Relax, take it slow and be yourself (unless, of course, you are creepy).
- Build a "buzz" around yourself -- Women put a lot of stock in what their friends think of prospective suitors. If you want to date a particular girl, demonstrate your good qualities (e.g., sense of humor, good taste, charitable nature) around her friends.
- Think before you speak.
- Good hygiene is a must.
- Maintain a good diet and exercise to maintain an attractive physique.
- When a woman says "No" she means it
- Never bring up your ex. It is an instant turn off to women because they will think you are not over them.
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