Right Thing to do When A woman Is Upset
Well, here is the Right Thing to do When A woman Is Upset.
Give her emotional support and a shoulder to cry on, but do NOT attempt to give her ANY solutions to her problems. Why not? You may ask.
Because women's heads are wired differently than ours. As men, we want solutions to our problems right away. Women, on the other hand, want emotional support. So when women tell you their problems, they aren't REALLY looking for you to give them your two cents right away. What they're looking for is actually emotional support.
Unfortunately most guys do not realize this, and that's why they try to play the "advisor" or "counsellor" whenever their girlfriends tell them their problems. Instead of LISTENING to their girlfriends, they try to chip in and offer their "solutions" for the problems RIGHT AWAY. As a result, both parties become frustrated. The women feel their boyfriends are not listening to them, while the men complain to their buddies that their "stupid" girlfriends are not listening or being "logical".
So what should you do if a woman comes to you when she's upset? The first thing you should do is to LISTEN. Don't be too eager to offer her your opinion or your "solution" yet. Just LISTEN to her and give her a shoulder to cry on. Most of the times, she just wants somebody to talk to.
If she starts acting like a bitch, then just keep your silence and ignore her. Don't let her drag you into her problems. Give her your emotional support-but draw the line there. Getting inside her world will only makes things even more complicated.
Good Luck!
7:34 AM
this is very true...
8:26 AM
Well as a woman, I'm not only need a shoulder to cry, sometimes I also need solution, what I don't like is, if a man try to give advices, but he doesn't hear me till the end, so the advices would be different just like what I need. But you are right, women need to be listened, but make sure that you listen on her till the end before you give her a solution ;)
8:00 AM
Yup...
I always do that.
I always wait for the right timing whenever the woman is ready for my advice.